There are so many learning curves that mama’s face once their little ones are here and they enter motherhood. Today on the podcast, we are discussing matrescence with Renata Cameron, a licensed MFT and new mom advocate. Renata is a big believer in helping moms to feel better prepared for motherhood, by providing support and community through her classes, Milestone Mommy and Me. You will learn what matrescence is and how to handle your expectations of becoming a mom. She will also share how to embrace the learning process of motherhood and everything that comes along with it.
What’s In This Episode:
- Learning what matrescence is
- How Renatas career and life transitioned due to motherhood
- The need for community as a mother
- Learning curves that come with a new baby
- The variables that come with matrescence
- How babies can rock your marriage and the importance of couples counseling
- The pressure of learning to become a parent
- Fear of not doing enough
- Shifting the vocabulary around motherhood
- Handling your expectations of being a mom
- Renata’s advice for first-time mothers
- Paying attention to your experiences and verbalizing it to your partner
- Embracing the learning process of motherhood
I’m a San Diegan, born and raised. The ocean is my happy place, cheese is my weakness, and hummingbirds are my spirit animals.
I’m married to the most caring + creative person I know. We met at San Diego State University where I received a bachelor’s degree in psychology. In search of adventure, I bought some cowboy boots and moved to Texas (the future hubs followed). Fueled by coffee and Kolaches, I received a master’s in Family Therapy from the University of Houston – Clear Lake.
Eight years of higher education, three years of supervision, and two licensing exams later, I earned the title of Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. A decade-long journey I look back fondly on… especially now that it’s over.
As a therapist, I completely nerd out over the brain.
As a result, I quickly grew to appreciate the importance and impact of childhood experiences. This lens and passion guided my work with 100s of families. Moreover, this viewpoint switched my therapeutic focus from that a treatment modality to a Wellness or Prevention-Early Intervention (PEI) approach. This desire to support families before clinically necessary, coupled with my transition into motherhood, produced the realization that “supporting mamas is the key to saving humanity,” and birthed the creation of Milestones Mommy and Me.
I’m a mama on a mission to bring together and empower other moms. I believe wholeheartedly in the importance of these groups for all new moms (or second+ moms with new babies) so much that I’m making this the sole focus of my practice and career. I’m beyond excited to bring this unique group experience to San Diego moms.
Connect with Renata:
“Every mom within this chunk of time that is just in that transition of, who am I? What is going on? What is happening to me, my world and relationships? What is happening to my identity?” – Renata Cameron
“Where it hits you, when and to what degree is so independent to you, the baby and so many different variables.” – Renata Cameron
“That’s a really scary feeling to feel like I’m losing myself when this is supposed to be the best time of my life.” – Renata Cameron
“In the beginning, there’s this desperate search for answers, and the idea of there being no right answer does not comfort you too much.” – Renata Cameron
“The hard will never go away but to really be able to give yourself more grace in the hard, to seek support in the hard, to get ways to be more aware of the hard. That will lessen the intensity and make it a much more manageable experience.” – Renata Cameron
“They have biologically everything they need to thrive. Their brains want to learn, their brains want to succeed, they want to thrive. All we really need to do is give them a foundation that supports them.” – Renata Cameron
“Anything that’s hard, gives you such an opportunity to grow.” – Lara Schultz
“It’s just a practice of learning to trust yourself in that role, and I think that comes just with the ability to learn who you are so that you can better find out what works for you and what works for your baby.” -Renata Cameron
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