If you’ve ever dealt with pregnancy or infant loss – we hear you, we see you and we support you. This episode is being released in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Today we’re hearing from several mama’s and even Lara’s husband, Taylor, on pregnancy and infant loss. We dive into what it felt like, how they handled the grieving process, how they feel in hindsight looking back on the loss and more. Parents going through infant and pregnancy loss can often feel isolated, ashamed, embarrassed, broken and a range of other emotions. This episode will give you some perspective of other mamas who’ve been through pregnancy or infant loss and will give you some practical advice on how to support a friend who may be navigating their own loss.
What’s In This Episode:
- 03:15 – Lara’s Interview with Amanda from the Feel Amazing Naked Podcast
- What led up to the first time Lara experienced pregnancy loss and navigating that loss
- How Lara felt when she found out about her miscarriage
- What it feels like when others don’t know what to say or how to comfort you
- Becoming pregnant with Sawyer and keeping it to themselves
- How to navigate the grieving process
- What emotions they felt about their loss
- How their perspective changed from navigating multiple miscarriages
- What got them through their pregnancy loss
- How they feel about their losses in hindsight
- Their thoughts on getting pregnant again or accepting a new child into their family
- How to support a friend during pregnancy loss
- 27:20 – Questions and Answers from other mama influencers on pregnancy or infant loss
- Rachel’s experience of being told her unborn son had downs syndrome then being told he would have trisomy 18
- Going through the birthing experience with her son and having to say goodbye
- How she feels about the loss today
- Being pregnant again after losing her son
- Rachel’s thoughts on support from others in her grief
- 1:02:00 – Lara’s interview with her husband Taylor on his perspective
- Taylor’s perspectives as a husband going through multiple miscarriages
- How Taylor felt about each miscarriage
- What Taylor’s beliefs are around pregnancy loss
- Taylor’s thoughts on what was happening to Lara
- What support Taylor got as a man going through pregnancy loss with his wife
- His hindsight on what they went through
Quotes:
“Find something that brings you peace and hold onto it.” – Lara Schulte
“We are all united and going through this loss together. Together we can thrive on the other side by sharing it.” – Amanda Walker
“It’s a daily work in progress to process everything that happened.” – Brandi Schutt
“Knowing that I wasn’t alone in it was what helped me to process it.” – Alycia Drury
“For me, time helped to heal the pain. It’s always going to be there when I see that someone lost a baby that pain comes up again and you feel it and remember what it feels like.” – Alycia Drury
“We need to grieve our baby, the process and the trauma.” – Brandi Schutt
“I wish people would’ve said less than they did. I think what was most painful for me was the invalidating statements like ‘everything happens for a reason.’ – Ashurina Ream
“I had to think of arrangements that literally no parent should ever have to think about. I was sitting on my couch 30 weeks pregnant looking at infant caskets .” – Rachel Borg
“When you give birth, every cell in your body wants that baby. Mind, body and soul.” – Rachel Borg
“We all have a story and it’s important for all of us to share them.” – Rachel Borg
“You start to wonder, ‘did we do something wrong? Did we do something to cause this?'” – Taylor Schulte
“I do not want fear to hold me back.” – Lara Schulte
Links:
Lara’s Pregnancy Loss Instagram Post
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