For today’s episode of the podcast, we are bringing another dad on the podcast in honor of Father’s Day. The guest we are chatting with today is Brad Johnson, a financial coach, investment consultant and father of three children. We chat about prioritizing parenthood and where it should start. Why it is so important to schedule in regular date nights with your spouse or partner. He discusses what it was like feeling underprepared for fatherhood and creating accountability for children. If you want to learn to stop policing kids and start empowering them then this is the episode for you.
What’s In This Episode:
- Brad’s career and how it transformed from fatherhood
- Dealing with dad guilt
- Hitting the stop button and being present with your family
- How his relationship with his wife strengthened after children
- What would’ve been helpful to know before fatherhood
- What it’s like going to a Dad Retreat
- The importance of 1 on 1 time with children
- The connection that dads have with their kids
- Learning to communicate as parents
- How divorce affects children
- The importance of continuing to “date” your partner
- Implementing meditation into his life
- The framework for great conversations with your kids
- Creating a family culture and having your children hold you accountable
- Focusing on effort rather than labeling
- Empowering kids rather than policing them
I grew up in rural Minneapolis, KS (population approx. 2,000) on a farm with my parents and younger brother. Growing up lower, middle class – money wasn’t always easy to come by. However, this upbringing did instill a couple of principles in me that I still value highly today. Spending many days of my childhood summers throwing hay bales and fixing barbed wire fence, the value of a hard day’s work has never been lost on me.
Another principle I learned growing up in a small Midwest town was to always treat others as you’d want to be treated. Sounds simple, but in a hometown where “your parents knew if you’d been acting up before you even got home”, this was ingrained at an early age. I still value this principle and strive to run my business with it in mind.
Sports were a big part of my life growing up. Although I had a successful high school career in football, there weren’t many colleges looking to recruit a 165-pound senior. So my college football career started at a tiny junior college in the middle of nowhere, Highland Community College. There I went from non-existent on the depth chart to an All-Conference selection by the time I finished up. This led to a scholarship offer at Emporia State a Division II college in KS. While battling for a starting spot, I suffered a devastating knee injury, tearing my ACL on the very last day of spring practice. After sitting out a year and a grueling physical therapy regimen, I was able to come back from that injury to help our team to its first-ever playoff appearance as a Division II school, earning All-Conference and All-American honors along the way. My head coach later shared with me a note following that season that he’d written before that year started… he was unsure about starting me at free safety due to the uncertainty of how I’d come back from my injury and thinking “I’d lost a step.” In a weird sort of way, hearing his doubt after the way my football career had ended was actually very gratifying. It reinforced the fact that hard work does pay off.
Transitioning to the business world from college, I was blessed with an incredible opportunity and a bit of luck. I learned about Advisors Excel through a friend and joined the startup company as the 12th employee in 2007. At the time, our company was a small, unheard of brokerage company in Topeka, KS. Today, Advisors Excel employs over 530 employees and is the largest independent insurance brokerage company in the United States, our advisors gathered over $12B of assets last year. Featured in Tony Robbin’s recent NY Times Best Seller MONEY Master the Game, it’s been an amazing ride watching our small little company “grow up” and become recognized as the industry’s leader in the space.
At the core of our company’s success is a simple philosophy – “It’s very difficult to outperform the core group of associations you surround yourself with and this is what truly differentiates Advisors Excel. The simple formula of focusing on the biggest and brightest financial advisors in the country and facilitating the ease of how ideas are shared among them has led to results we could never have imagined.”
When not working, you can find me enjoying time with my family at our home in rural Silver Lake, Kansas. I’m blessed to have met the woman I was meant to spend the rest of my life with while still in high school. Sarah, easily has the more challenging career between us as she spends her days at home with our three young children: Braun, Nash, and Nellie (no easy task!). Sarah also stays busy coaching high school volleyball with three former state championship teams to her credit! For my hobbies, I enjoy staying physically active with CrossFit (also have a couple Tough Mudders under my belt!), bass fishing in our pond, and collecting (and drinking) red wine! I’m also passionate about giving to causes that help children in need, here are a list of a few of my favorite charities: Make-A-Wish, World Teacher Aid, The Help Foundation, Front Row Foundation.
Connect with Brad:
“Build a business that you never want to retire from.” – Brad Johnson
“There is a saying that there’s no manual for parenthood, and that’s one hundred percent the truth.” – Brad Johnson
“The level of selfishness immediately drops because you are not the number one priority anymore.” – Brad Johnson
“It’s not always going to work out as planned but it will all be okay in the end.” – Brad Johnson
“You can be the best parent on earth, but if you maintain that relationship with your spouse or partner – that’s massively impactful to your kids.” – Brad Johnson
“It’s one thing if its dad saying it, it’s another thing if they create it on their own and live up to the expectation of themselves. .” – Brad Johnson
“Kids want accountability, they want structure. I think often times as parents we just don’t know how to provide that in a way that’s not a ton of work.” – Brad Johnson
“Build a business that serves you, not one that you sacrifice your family for making money.” – Brad Johnson
“The only true legacy we’re actually going to leave is our kids.” – Brad Johnson
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