Are you tired of your kids bickering and fighting? Or are you about to bring home baby number two and want to stop sibling rivalry in its tracks before it has the chance of forming?
Today we brought on Dr. Sheldon Zablow, a child psychiatrist with an extensive background in sibling rivalries.
He gives some of his best advice on how to navigate difficult sibling relationships and how to set a good foundation for children to eliminate the chances of developing a sibling rivalry from the beginning.
We discuss how the family dynamic plays a role in sibling rivalries, why 1-on-1 time with your children is so important, and how to be inclusive and avoid showing favoritism to children.
WHAT’S IN THIS EPISODE:
- How Dr. Zablow career has changed as an adult and child psychiatrist and why he loves working with children
- The shift that Dr. Zablow saw when he became a father and how it made him more empathetic to other parents
- How he defines siblings and step-siblings and why sibling relationships are so important
- What sibling rivalry is and how to know when it’s gotten out of control
- The advantages and challenges of sibling rivalry
- Being aware of how your childhood sibling rivalry might affect how you parent
- What sibling rivalry means in the family dynamic
- How twins usually aren’t affected by sibling rivalries
- How to set up a good foundation to eliminate the chances of developing a sibling rivalry
- Celebrating the older child and congratulating them on being a big brother/sister
- Why you need to have 1-on-1 time with each child
- Being inclusive of all and doing your best to not show favoritism
- Looking for opportunities to engage in proactive parenting by praising them for getting along well
- Setting up your own responsibilities with your spouse to eliminate overwhelm and to get support
- Coming to a middle ground when setting limits with your partner
- Why you need to do what’s best for your children and not what’s easiest for you
- Empowering children to resolve sibling rivalry on their own without stepping in as parents
- How sibling rivalries can change, disappear and come back as children age
- Indicators that it’s time to seek outside help
- The worst and best things you can say to children and siblings
LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:
- Connect with Dr. Zablow: 858-485-6522 & firstname.lastname@example.org
MORE ABOUT DR. SHELDON ZABLOW :
Dr. Sheldon Zablow is a psychiatrist in Poway, California.
He received his medical degree from the University of Virginia School of Medicine and has been in practice for more than 20 years.
OUR FAVORITE QUOTES FROM DR. SHELDON ZABLOW ABOUT SIBLING RIVALRY:
“Parents sometimes unconsciously are treating their children how they were treated as children.”
“You really have to let each sibling know that it’s going to be a protected time.” (On 1-on-1 time with each child)
“Taking care of sibling rivalry is one of the skills that’s going to help them achieve that ultimate goal of being out in the world and being able to interact with other adults, hold a job and have healthy social relationships in their lives.”
“The situation is dynamic and will always be changing as children age.”