Have you ever found yourself comparing your motherhood to another mom on social media?
It’s no secret that social media has an effect on the business of being a mom. In this episode, we brought on Bethany Johnson and Maggie Quinlan, the researchers and authors behind You’re Doing It Wrong!
We dive into the comparison trap that comes with social, especially Instagram. It’s so easy to get sucked into comparing your life to the glossy, seemingly-perfect feed of someone else. However social media isn’t always the best place to turn to for advice around mothering.
We chat about making decisions based on social media and parenting advice from history that is found on social media today. You’ll hear all about the research they did, what they’ve found out and why they decided to write this book and research the correlation of social media and motherhood.
WHAT’S IN THIS EPISODE:
- How Maggie and Bethany’s career and life has shifted since motherhood
- What inspired them to begin their research
- How they researched and found data for their book
- An example of poor advice that ties together history and social media
- Why they set out to do this to help eliminate shame around social.
- Positive outcomes they’ve noted from their research and social media
- Negative things they noted about the way people mother and the portrayal of mothering in media
- How doctors and medical practitioners can support their patients who are getting information from social
- Maggie’s takeaways on their chapter around fertility and pregnancy
- Their thoughts on sleep development programs
- Bethany’s takeaways from their chapter on babies and social.
- How we’re doing postpartum care wrong and things to keep in mind when taking advice from social media
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MORE ABOUT THE AUTHORS OF YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG!:
Bethany Johnson, MPHIL, MA:
Professor Johnson is an Instructor for the Department of History, Associate Member to the Graduate Faculty for the Department of Communication Studies, and Associate Faculty for the Department of Women’s and Gender Studies at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She specializes in American medical and gender history. Her publications have appeared in Health Communication, Women & Language, and Women’s Reproductive Health; her auto-ethnographic work appeared in Departures in Critical Qualitative Research. In 2016, she discussed her research as a guest of “Charlotte Talks” on National Public Radio (NPR).
Margaret “Maggie” Quinlan, PH.D.
Dr. Quinlan is an Associate Professor of Communication Studies and a Core Faculty Member of the Interdisciplinary Health Psychology Ph.D. Program at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She is the Director of an Interdisciplinary Minor, Health/Medical Humanities. Her scholarly work relates primarily to issues of equality and to the structures that constrain and empower all who are involved in giving and receiving care within and outside the US medical establishment. Quinlan has published approximately 40 peer-reviewed journal articles and 17 book chapters and co-produced three documentaries in a regional Emmy award-winning series, Courage of Creativity.
OUR FAVORITE SOCIAL QUOTES FROM MAGGIE QUINLAN AND BETHANY JOHNSON:
“The problem is that your research becomes me-search.” – Bethany
“We wanted to look at all of these conversations happening to see how the discourse itself shifted.” – Bethany
“You can only do what you know with what you have.” – Bethany
“Understanding that what always changes but the why never does can help people take a step back when it happens to them.” – Maggie