You’ve seen the ‘supermoms’ plastered all over social media. They’ve got it all together: the husband, the kids, the career, the volunteering, the soccer practice, the perfect makeup and hair… how do they do it? Or are they pulling the wool over your eyes? Either way, Lara and Jenn have a message for you. You don’t need to be a supermom, and if we’re honest, it probably isn’t even possible. Holding yourself to that standard will only make you feel like a failure. What you need to be is your superself.
Social media is a ‘highlights reel,’ not reality.
We always want to put our best foot forward. Show the clean house, the smiling children, and the successes of motherhood. We DON’T want to share the truth: Cheerios between the couch cushions that have probably been there a few months, screaming fits (both you and the kids), and the look of utter exhaustion that is on your face 90% of the time.
When it’s okay to look like a supermom.
For Lara, she needs a clean house and a solid schedule. Her career requires her to keep her appearance worthy of social media. So why does it bother her to be called a supermom? Because she’s really just being her superself. She thrives in that environment, but Lara is NOT immune to the troubles that every other mom faces. But the deeper problem is when her life looks like an impossible standard, and she is painfully aware of the affect it has on other moms.
What being a supermom really means.
Being a supermom isn’t about having it all together. It’s being your superself. Maybe you don’t thrive in an ordered environment. Maybe your kids don’t. Or maybe you and the kids are opposites. It’s all about finding the right balance where you’re doing your best mothering while honoring who you are. You also have to understand that no matter where your balance is, it won’t be without hardships and sacrifice.
Don’t compare yourself with other moms.
What’s right for them and their families isn’t right for you and yours. What matters is that you’re happy, your kids are happy, and you still have a little time for yourself and your own dreams – not what that looks like on the outside. Take an honest inventory of your own expectation of yourself as a wife, mother, and professional. Are your standards realistic?
How to be your superself.
Jenn believes you should set boundaries for what you need to be the best version of yourself, and that includes taking care of yourself rather than allow your life to run you ragged. Lara urges you to not put your bar too high; choose one thing that makes you your superself and master it. For her, it’s how she reacts to things, which can be a challenge with toddlers because it’s often very reactionary. But the biggest takeaway is one we covered already: don’t compare yourself to others!
What’s your best advice for being your superself?
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